What’s your fear? Is it fear of being laughed at in front of a large crowd? Is it fear of being rejected?
I’ll tell you what my fears were (still are):
- Fear of being humiliated, laughed at in front of a crowd
- I fear being rejected by friends, family and new people I meet
The difference between me now and me 15 years ago is that I can manage these fears much better. And that’s what I want to teach you too.
Low self-esteem is a direct result of a fear. Just like the ones I mentioned above.
So, it occurred to me that being able to manage these fears (it’s much easier to try to manage than to strictly overcome them) and ultimately to overcome these fears was the best solution.
Let’s take fear of being laughed at or humiliated in front of crowd. I hated (still do) speaking in public or making a presentation in front of a class or a crowd.
But I saw how the crowd warmed to the ones who made a great presentation and broke it down to see how I could replicate the attributes of what made that presentation so well received.
I found that:
- Shouldn’t read directly off a sheet of paper. Talking to the crowd as if I was having a conversation with a friend was best.
- Talk slowly and clearly. Your instinct may be to talk as fast as you can to get it over with quickly but that will just lead to a poor presentation and ultimately a bad impression with your audience
- Involve the audience
Now, this list isn’t a comprehensive list but you get the idea.
Building confidence and boosting your self-esteem is about taking on your fears and learning how to deal with them – not avoiding your fears. Avoiding your fears just leads to continued low self-esteem.
I can tell you that the hardest part is just taking that firs step in learning how to manage your fears.
If you want to learn in detail how to boost your self-esteem by managing your fears, you’ll be interested in my guide “Boost your Self-Esteem” which details the system I use and developed to manage my fears and boost self-esteem and self-confidence.
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